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5 Things You Didn’t Know That Easily Contribute To Stress


5 Things You Didn’t Know That Easily Contribute To Stress

  • Mental Health

Stress is a part of the human experience.

Stress is something everyone experiences from time to time. Sitting in traffic when you’re already late for work, rushing to meet a deadline for your boss, and finding out a loved one has been diagnosed with a severe illness are all common examples of life events that can elicit stress. Unless you’re a monk meditating in the mountains and inching toward enlightenment, stress is a part of the human experience.

However, while financial problems, challenging work environments, and personal relationships are some of the leading causes of stress, other less obvious factors in your life also contribute to your stress level. This blog will explore five things you didn’t know affect stress and offer some helpful tools you can implement to create more peace and well-being in your everyday life.

Things You Didn’t Know Contribute To Stress

Being a woman.

Yes, you read that right. Women are twice as likely to suffer from severe stress and anxiety than men, according to a 2016 study published by The Journal of Brain & Behavior. While times have certainly changed, women still do more unpaid domestic work than their male partners. However, many people overlook housework as taking on extra work hours (aka overtime) because of the widespread belief that it is a woman’s role to fill.

In addition, there is also the aspect of emotional labor that many women experience. For example, many female managers display “surface acting,” where they essentially express positivity, empathy, and calmness toward their team even when those emotions are not their natural state. Women commonly experience emotional labor: performing duties expected of them that often go unnoticed.

Past experiences.

If you have been diagnosed with Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), you may experience ongoing stress for months, years, or even decades after the traumatic experience occurred. PTSD develops in about 1 to 3 people who experience severe trauma. Trauma can result from a severe accident, physical or sexual assault, emotional abuse, exposure to traumatic events at work, serious health problems, unexpected loss of a loved one, childbirth experiences, or war and conflict, to name a few.

Those who experience PTSD may have flashbacks of the traumatic experience and have high adrenaline levels in the body. These symptoms may help guard against future dangerous situations, but living in this state also produces unneeded stress hormones throughout the body, causing unease and, often, discomfort.

Your personality and resources.

Believe it or not, your personality can significantly affect how stressed you feel. Extroverts, for example, tend to experience less stress because they have social resources available to them for support which can help combat stress. However, if you are a perfectionist, you may experience more stress because of your high standards and your very specific expectations for yourself. Type A personalities can stress themselves and those around them as they want to control many factors of their lives, even ones completely out of reach.


This one may not surprise you, but the busier you are in your everyday life, the more likely you will experience stress. Misplacing keys, running late, and forgetting to pack something you need to be successful during the day are common experiences that busy people have and are likely to cause stress. The more frequent these experiences happen, the more likely you will feel the effects on your psychological health and emotional well-being.

People who define their self-worth by how much they are doing and accomplishing may see busyness as a badge of honor. While some may be busy working a second job to pay bills, others are busying themselves to prove something to themselves or others. No matter the reason, busyness undoubtedly causes stress as we race from one task to another.

Generational trauma.

Generational trauma isn’t just experienced by one person but passes on from one generation to another. In 1966, Canadian Psychiatrist Vivian M. Rakoff, MD and her team recorded high rates of psychological distress among children of Holocaust survivors, and the concept of generational trauma was born. Studies now show that extreme stress can elicit adverse psychological effects on children and even grandchildren and result in clinical anxiety, depression, and PTSD. These findings suggest that even though the children and grandchildren didn’t experience the trauma directly, they still are affected by it in similar ways if they had directly experienced it.

Racial injustices, domestic violence, sexual assault, and other hate crimes can also result in generational trauma. Symptoms of generational trauma can include hypervigilance, mistrust, aloofness, high anxiety, depression, panic attacks, insomnia, a sensitive fight or flight response, and issues with self-esteem and self-confidence, says Dr. DeSilva, a child and adolescent psychiatrist. In addition, growing up in a household with a parent or guardian who has overactive responses to stress can also lead to a child mirroring similar stress responses.

Helpful Tools to Restore Your Well-Being and Find Peace

While we can’t always control or prevent factors that lead to stress, we can practice awareness and begin noticing when stress arises. Then we can turn to a self-care toolbox to help us navigate our difficult emotions. Here are a few tools to fill your self-care toolbox with:

get good sleep

Establish a morning and evening routine.

Getting up and going to sleep at the same time is a great way to ensure that you’re getting enough rest. In addition, having a routine of washing your face, using essential oils, or laying out your outfit the night before are simple but proven ways to eradicate unneeded stress in the mornings. Create goals within reach when starting out. That way, you are more likely to stick with it.

Healthy communication.

If you feel like you are taking on more roles in the household than you should be, having an honest conversation with your partner is crucial to restoring your well-being. If you don’t stand up for your needs, no one will. It’s simple as that. This recommendation applies to any relationship that leaves you feeling stressed.

Setting boundaries with things that cause stress.

If scrolling through social media before bed or packing your day with endless to-dos is causing stress, take a step back and ask yourself what needs to go. It’s so important to pause and take inventory of your daily activities and ask yourself what purpose they are serving for you.

Prioritize healing.

What activities help you feel calm? Journaling? Taking a walk? Reading a good book? These activities should not be things you do only once or twice a month. They should be added to your weekly calendar, right up there with grocery shopping. You matter, and so does your well-being. Prioritize it because no one is coming to force you to do it. That “one day” you think will arrive won’t unless you make it happen. Take the reigns of your life.

Ask for help.

As always, reaching out to a therapist or life coach can help you manage stress. You don’t need to navigate stress alone. Lean into resources available to you. Contact us today to learn how we can assist you.

When you think of the well-being of a child, you first think of basic needs: food, water, and shelter. Once these needs are met, however, it’s crucial for a child to have emotional and social wellness as well. In this article, we will explore the impact social wellness has on the overall health of a child and great ways for children to garner social support in their lives.

It comes as no surprise that as human beings, we all need connection with others, no matter what stage of life we are in. In fact, having social support is a social determinant of health (SDOH) that significantly impacts the health of an individual. After spending the last few years in and out of isolation due to the Covid-19 outbreak, social support is more important now than ever before. Having social support means having family members and friends you can talk to and seek advice from when life feels challenging and overwhelming. Knowing you’re not alone in your life journey, especially as a child, creates a sense of belonging and empowerment throughout one’s life.

4 Types of Social Support

Emotional Support. This type of support lets you know that people care about you and have empathy for your experiences. Emotional support often looks like people checking in on you to let you know they’re thinking of you, and that they are there if you need anything. As a parent, make sure your child knows you can be a sounding board for them. If you have family members who can also show up for your children in this way, even better!

Practical Help. This type of support is when people give you something tangible or offer a service to help you out. This could be in the form of money, making food when you are sick, or helping to pack when moving. Having family and friends show up in this way shows your child what it looks like to be present for people you love.

Sharing Points of View. This type of support can often come in the form of affirmations and encouragement. For example, pointing out your child’s strengths to them and reminding them they can do anything they put their mind to. It can also look like sharing another perspective if they are being hard on themselves. For example, if they are angry with themselves after receiving a bad grade on a test, you can help them see it as a learning experience and a way for them to grow.

Sharing Information. This type of support is when someone shares what they’ve learned from their own life experiences. For example, if another parent has a child who struggles with socializing, they can share some tips and tricks they’ve learned to help their child find and create social support.

The Importance of Social Groups and Extended Support

Children who are connected to their family, friends, and people in their community have opportunities to learn how to speak, share, and get along with others. When your child feels connected to people in your neighborhood, it often allows them to feel physically safe which can alleviate stress and worry. Simply riding bikes, going on walks, and saying hello to neighbors with your kids can create this sense of security for them.

In addition to engaging with your neighbors, getting involved in local organizations can also create social support for your child. Signing up for a sports team, musical theater, art class or summer camp are all great ways to help your child meet new friends and learn important social skills that can carry them through their lives.

Tips for Helping Kids Make Community Connections:

Spend time outside in your neighborhood playing on the playground, going to a local farmer’s market, or scheduling a playdate with neighborhood kids.

Show your kids that connection is a two-way street. If your neighbors or friends go out of town, offer to get their mail, or water their plants and take your child with you when you go. This will show your child how you show up for people you care about.

Make sure you make time for socializing with friends as well. Your child looks to you first and foremost for how they should act and live their own life.

Encourage your child to step out of their comfort zone and do something they may be scared to do. As a parent, it’s your job to push them into something social for their own well-being at times.